Friday, September 19, 2008



Just a vent...

I just need to vent...

I am so fing tired of being treated like crap by my sister especially when I am trying to help. I just can't think of a NVC way to handle things right now and I just need to get the mad out.

I tried to call her to respectfully offer help with the whole pregnancy thing (offering to fix meals, clean her house, help with her 2 year old) and she gets off the phone quickly saying can I call you right back something happened to her two year old.

Does she call right back? NO so I wait. And then I call and leave a message and wait then I send an email and wait. My Mom has been trying for 2 days to get a hold of her... nothing. 24 fing hours later she send us an email. basically saying don't call me I'll call you. we are all OK!

I am just really tired of offering help to her because she has a high risk pg and then being treated like crap. You know if you don't want help then just say so just don't treat me like crap and then decide you want me at your every call to watch the 2 year old and say it is all because of the pg. She has been like this all our adult life so no nothing new here just tired of the crap and I feel like I need to be there for here and help her because of the pkd and high bp and possibly the pre-e.

I love her and I really wish things were different. I really wish we communicated better. I really hope nothing happens to her.


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Albert, David Homeschooling and the Voyage of Self-Discovery:
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Aron, Elaine The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive
When the World Overwhelms Them

Berends, Polly Whole Child/ Whole Parent
Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell The Five Love Languages of Children
Cohen, Lawrence Playful Parenting
Coloroso, Barbara Kids Are Worth It
Diamond, Patti Life Long Learning
Dyer, Wayne W. What Do You Really Want for Your Children?
Faber & Mazlish How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids
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Faber & Mazlish Siblings Without Rivalry
Fitzenreiter, Valerie The Unprocessed Child: Living without School
Gatto, John Taylor Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of
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Gordon, Thomas Parent Effectiveness Training
Greene, Ross The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding
and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children

Griffith, Mary The Unschooling Handbook
Hirschman, Jane and Lela Zaphiropoulos Preventing Childhood Eating
Problems: A Practical and Positive Approach to Raising Children Free
of Food and Weight Conflicts

Holt, John Learning All the Time
Holt, John How Children Fail

Holt, John Instead of Education
Holt, John Escape From Childhood: The Needs and Rights of Children
Holt, John Teach Your Own
Holt, John How Children Learn
Hunt, Jan The Natural Child: Parenting from the Heart

Juul, Jesper Your Competent Child: Toward New Basic Values for the Family

Kabat-Zinn, John and Myla Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of
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Kashtan, Inbal Parenting from the Heart
Katie, Byron Loving What Is
Kimmel, James What ever happened to Mothers (available online at

Kohn, Alfie Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars,
Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
Kohn, Alfie No Contest: The Case Against Competition
Kohn, Alfie Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and
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Kranowitz, Carol Stock The Out of Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping
with Sensory Integration Disfunction

Kream, Rue Parenting a Free Child
Kurcinka, Mary Raising Your Highly Spirited Child
Kurcinka, Mary Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles
Leo, Pam Connection Parenting

Luvmour, Josette Natural Learning Rythms: Discovering How and When
Your Child Learns

Rosenberg, Marshall Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Rosenberg, Marshall Raising Children Compassionately
Smith, Frank The Book of Learning and Forgetting
Sweet, Bill and Win Living Joyfully With Children
Wallace, Nancy Child's Work